Welcome to the third edition of the Round Table Discussion – spanking hot topics, hosted by Spanking Romance Reviews
Today’s topic is Role Play.
My thoughts may be controversial to some who are touchy to these issues, so I beg you to read with an open mind…
A few months ago my husband and I were having a heart to heart about our sex life. I was in a state of gratitude for the expansion we’ve experienced since introducing D/s to our relationship and I thanked him and asked what fantasies of his we might also incorporate. It was a hard for him to admit, and it’s a good thing I was in such an open state, because his answer was a shocker.
He said he’d like to role play that I was the girl with whom he was cheating on his wife.
Keep in mind, we’ve had fidelity issues in the past, so it was very hard for me not to freak out. I gulped, opened my heart again (which had spontaneously constricted) and said okay, I was down.
Because really, wouldn’t I much, much rather play that he’s cheating on me than have him actually cheat on me? Isn’t that the healthy expression of a sexual desire he has that is inappropriate to our relationship?
And really, that’s my philosophy on role play in general. It’s an amazing way to derive sexual satisfaction from something that might otherwise be:
b) immoral or
c) otherwise tabboo (actually I don’t know what this would be, but it seemed like I needed a “c”)
All you need is a willing, consensual partner and nearly every taboo I can think of can be played out in a healthy way:
Dominance/Sadomasochism (including but not limited to spanking, knife play, breath play, etc): In today’s society, it is entirely inappropriate to punish or hurt another human being. But for every wanna be dom, there’s surely a willing sub and it’s all fair game.
Likewise, pedophilia can be totally enjoyed through Age Play.
Rape fantasies? Role play is a perfect and safe outlet. Maybe breath play might be included here, as well.
Incest could be acted out, either through age play or adult incest.
Beastiality – at first I thought maybe the Furries are acting out beastiality, but I was informed that the desire usually comes more from developing an attraction to the unconditionally loving stuffed animals of childhood. So hey– that’s totally cool. But back to beastiality– how about Pony Play?? Or the sexy latex kitty outfits I’ve seen? Or I guess if the animal is totally willing and is unharmed in the act, then it’s really a victimless crime. (Side note – they have an undercover officer and his dog who are conducting a sting on bestiality in my town. I guess there are code words you put on craigslist postings that clue those in the know into what you’re looking for…).
What am I missing? Not sure if transgender desires fall in here, because I think cross-dressing is more of an identity thing than a sexual thing, but correct me if I’m wrong…
I don’t think any of the above taboos need be considered “wrong,” so long as they are acted out on willing partners, nor should the desires be shamed or deemed necessary of “fixing”. Just as homosexuality is no longer considered “deviant”, I hope in the future we can open our minds about all of these fetishes and accept that they are different expressions on the sexual spectrum. When they are acted out with consensual partners who both derive satisfaction from the acts, I am totally in favor of them.
So… are you shocked? Offended? Do you agree with my take on it? I would love it if you would either a) leave a comment below or b) post your own take on your blog and leave a link in the comments below or c) nah… just kidding. this time I really can’t think of a “c”.
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