When I first heard about Ageplay, I didn’t think I got it. And I had the same reaction as many of being a little skeeved out. I thought it was a healthy expression of pedophilia or incest– so nothing wrong with it, but not my cup of tea.
Except there was this specific moment when I realized I DID get it. Katherine Deane was writing an ageplay section in The Winter Storm and she told me that she got turned on writing the “Oh, no, please don’t spank me, Daddy,” parts. And my belly sommersaulted. That tweaked me too.
So I gave it some thought. Did I have a thing for “Daddy”?
I remembered that when my husband and I first met and were in our flirty courting stage, he used to chase me around and play “monster”, (I would shriek and giggle and run) hold me down and tickle me, and otherwise let my Little out to play. He also was quite dominant, making it very clear when he didn’t like something, making the decisions, taking care of me/us, etc.
I also considered that I’ve been wired this way my entire life, which means I have been masturbating to thoughts of spanking since my very earliest memories. That means, initially, my fantasies were adult/child. They were never about MY daddy, but the spanker was a daddy figure, and the heroine was a little girl. As I grew older, the heroine grew too. She was a teenager, spanked by an authority figure–a chamber maid, spanked by her lord, a student spanked by her teacher, etc. Eventually, the pairings turned into romantic couplings–husband/wife scenarios, or spanking with sex and romance.
So of course a Daddy Dom wound my crank– I’ve had years of fantasies that involve exactly that. And it doesn’t mean I want to have sex with my own father!
I also note there was a delay in the ages of my heroines as related to my own age. In my twenties, she was still a teenager. I don’t think I turned to romantic spanking in fantasy until my thirties. So I totally get it–many people’s fantasies have not changed since their initial interest, so ageplay is the perfect expression of their desires.
I enjoyed writing my first ageplay immensely–I found the nurturing aspect of the daddy dom to be overwhelmingly sweet and tender. I went back and forth a bit about the sex during ageplay thing. Emily Tilton will be discussing this issue tomorrow as part of Ageplay week, so maybe I shouldn’t address it here. I guess going into it, I couldn’t understand why you wouldn’t have sex during play– because it’s a fetish, it turns you on. But once I really got into my character, I suddenly understood the innocence there, and I did understand why some prefer ageplay without sex. I ended up changing all the “Fucks” to milder language but I left the sex, because well, I like sex. 🙂
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Her Hollywood Daddy
Hollywood starlet Marissa Sparks’ career teeters on the brink of implosion when movie producer and actor Joel Sutherland takes her in hand. He requires her to move in with him and live as his Little so he can provide strict discipline and guidance but he isn’t sure if it’s all a ploy to stay in the movie. She is, after all, a talented actress and could be faking everything. Buy Links: AMAZON, AMAZON UK, ARe, Barnes & Noble
Caroline’s Little World
Three great books by a best-selling author of age-play erotica! Caroline Dawkins is a professor of English who has never confessed her age-play and spanking fantasies to her husband, George Lane, a corporate attorney. After George comes home one night and finds Caroline pleasuring herself, over the course of an extraordinary year Caroline and George, with the help of new friends and former students, utterly transform their erotic life together in the pattern of those taboo fantasies.
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